Dear J-14 Magazine,
My best friend started dating her boyfriend a couple months ago and ever since then she has been ditching me to go and hang out with him. I get that she really likes him but that doesn't mean our friendship has to suffer. Last week I asked her to go to the mall with me and she said she was too tired. But then I saw her on Snapchat with her boyfriend at the mall! It makes me really sad because I feel like I'm losing her as a friend and all she keeps talking about is if I had a boyfriend we could go on double dates. What should I do?
First things first, don't ever think you need a guy to gain your relationship back with your friend. Yes while it might be nice to have a guy in your life to text and take adorable pictures with and of course, to go on some double dates with friends together, it probably won't bring you and your bestie closer together. To be honest, it may bring you farther apart. You won't have the free time you do now to see your friend because you will be hanging out with your boyfriend! Obviously, there are pros and cons to this situation but don't think by putting all of your energy on finding and getting a boyfriend it will help your current dilemma.
Have you talked to your friend about how you feel? Lots of times when we get into our first relationships, we get blinded by love. Even as we get older this can happen! I know you may feel sad and down right now, but make sure to let your friend know what's going on. She might be totally unaware that you are getting frustrated because she's so love struck by this new boy in her life! Really, it happens to everyone so make sure you communicate with her! Just think, just having one conversation could drastically change what is going on and you guys could be back to normal in no time!
Sometimes when we get into relationships we feel pressured to hang out with our boyfriend over our friends. It might be the case that she feels like this. Maybe her boyfriend asked her to go to the mall before you did and so she just told you she was tired because she didn't want to hurt your feelings.
My last piece of advice, try getting a group of people together to go to the mall or the movies! This way, your friend will be able to hang out with her friends and her boyfriend and she won't feel like she's ditching anyone! Good Luck!
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