When it comes to their love life, Sam Smith likes to keep things private. The singer may have stolen fans’ hearts with all their songs about love, but the British musician tries to keep their relationships out of the public eye.

“I’ve never really kind of played by the rule book. I love people and whoever I fall for, that’s who I fall for. I don’t know who that’s going to be,” Sam told U.K.’s The Sun in October 2020. “Now I don’t know what gender they will be, to be quite honest, and that’s a freeing thing — to not be limited to one category of person. I just fall in love with whoever I fall in love with.”

Along with tunes about romance, comes the obvious speculation about musicians’ love lives so it’s no shock that fans would be curious about Sam’s current relationship status. Not only did they have a pretty public relationship with 13 Reasons Why star Brandon Flynn, but they’ve also been romantically linked to Francois Rocci, Jonathon Zeizel, Charlie King, Jay Camilleri and Andy Newton Lee in the past.

As for how their past relationships helped them create music? Sam explained, “A queer person’s first relationship is a huge thing sometimes, because it’s where you discover the most about yourself. And so [the Love Goes alum is] more about me and my journey after that, really. But yeah, it is basically a break-up album.”

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During the same interview with The Sun, Sam further discussed their sexuality.

“I generally have never really thought about people, any human beings, in rigid terms. I’ve grown up in a family where the gender power balance and all these things were completely shifted,” they explained.  “My mum worked, my dad was a househusband. My sisters are incredibly strong women.”

They also discussed coming out as non-binary and changing their pronouns to they/them. “It wasn’t a new feeling, it was just the discovery of a language and a community of people that felt the same way,” Sam said. It’s been lovely. It’s been a process of feeling heard and seen — that there is a space that I can live in and enjoy my life in and feel completely like myself, and be treated as such. I think that’s the difference with the pronouns.”

Scroll through our gallery to uncover everyone Sam has dated and what went down between them.

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