We are still out here wondering why Liam Payne and Cheryl Cole called it quits after three whole years together. But it looks like we might finally get some answers! Cheryl, who shares a one-year-old son, Bear, with the “Strip That Down” singer, opened up to Sunday Times’ Style about the split and the details are heartbreaking.

The 35-year-old admitted that Liam might have felt excluded when they first had Bear together.

“When I think back to the early days of new motherhood, I was in such a bubble of love, I actually don’t think I saw anyone else,” she explained.

She then explained that the One Direction star just wanted to settle down with the singer and have kids so badly (he wanted kids since the age of 16, she revealed), but once it became a reality, she admitted it might not have been what he expected.

“He wanted to settle down and have a family and not do the solo thing,” she said. “Then we encouraged him to do that. And then it didn’t work out.”

“He was almost having two lives,” the Girls Aloud star continued. “You have to switch your head onto pop star and then switch it back to daddy.”

Although we’re sad the two didn’t work out we are certainly relieved that Liam didn’t give up his solo career! The singer has been super busy since their split. he released his first solo EP, First Timereunited with ex bandmate Louis Tomlinson when he appeared as a guest judge on The X Factor, and has been absolutely slaying the stage during multiple performances. He also revealed that he’s working hard on his first solo album, and we could not be any more excited!

We could definitely see why it might be difficult to manage being one of the world’s biggest (and swoon-worthy) pop stars and raising a family at the same time, but we hope Liam can have both soon.

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