We all know Shawn Mendes can whip up a super romantic song what seems to us listeners rather easily. His albums — Illuminate and the self-titled banger that is Shawn Mendes come to mind — are both filled with lyrics about love and heartbreak, but we’re all out here like where is this inspo coming from? Does Shawn have a secret girlfriend? What’s his relationship status at the moment? Well, we’re here to break it all down since yes, we usually just focus on his music, but we know everyone is curious about his love life and we just want to get down to the facts.

Is Shawn single?

Yes, he is. At the 2019 Grammys, the “In My Blood” crooner confirmed that he doesn’t have a Valentine this year.

“If I had a girlfriend, I think I definitely would celebrate. But I never have. I never have gone and done something big for Valentine’s Day,” he told Extra. He then cleared up that he’s not trying to be picky. Rather, he just doesn’t want to force a relationship if it’s not right. He added, “I’m just trying not to force something.”

The singer also told The Times UK in August 2018, “I’m totally single right now,” so he is not seeing anyone. And we know, you’re probably wondering HOW is Shawn single? He’s a total catch and we’re pretty sure could get a date with anyone he wanted. Well as he explained to Variety, a relationship just isn’t in the cards right now, and he’s okay with that.

“I’m not currently dating anyone, but it’s not because I don’t have time — I don’t know if I’d be dating anyone if I was home in Pickering, either,” he said. “It hasn’t stumbled across me, and I’m not chasing it. Of course, seeing all those other artists and people in relationships, you think, ‘Maybe it would be nice; who would be great for me?’ And that’s when you realize: ‘This is wrong. Let it be. I’m not supposed to be with anyone right now.'”

So he’s not chasing after love at the moment and there’s nothing wrong with that! Although, Shawn is only human and he admitted to Rolling Stone that sometimes, he finds himself longing for something more.

“I had this thought: ‘I have to get paparazzied with someone. Who am I gonna get? I’m not relevant,'” Shawn said. “[But then] I was like, ‘Ugh you f–king idiot. Why did you think that?'” Looks like he’s doing just fine without a special someone in his life just this minute!

Who is Shawn’s ideal girl?

Shawn has mentioned that he for sure has a type and if you fit the description, then just know you totally have a chance if you ever meet him!

“I really like funny girls, girls with a witty sense of humor; so if someone is able to catch onto what I’m saying very quickly, I find that very attractive. I really like brunettes…and also, dancers! I have a thing for dancers,” he once said to Notion magazine.

And back at the 2017 American Music Awards, E! News’ Jason Kennedy asked Shawn what he looks for in a potential GF and he really does like a girl who can make him laugh.

“Humor, humor is my number one thing,” Shawn said.

Would Shawn ever date a fan?

You bet he would. When speaking to The Times UK, he said he 100% would, for the cutest reason ever.

“Sure, I’d date a fan. Why wouldn’t you date someone who admires you? Isn’t that what couples always say? ‘She’s my biggest fan,'” he explained. And if he’s worried that a fan would be you know, too caught up with the idea that she’s on a date with THE Shawn Mendes, he said that’s not something he worries about because he’s a normal person, just like anyone else.

“The star shock only lasts a few hours. Then they realize I’m just a regular dude,” he said.

And this all leads us to the starlets he’s been linked over the years…

Did Shawn date Hailey Baldwin?

Shawn had most recently been spotted spending time with the stunning model for a while now, with the two going to dinner, hanging out in Universal Studios in Hollywood, apparently were rather cozy at a Halloween party, going to concerts, and just being cute AF. And then they went ahead and melted hearts everywhere when they walked the 2018 Met Gala red carpet together looking oh so happy and truly jaw-droppingly gorgeous together.

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So, was this subtle confirmation they were totally an item? Shawn did post a pic of the pair on his Instagram too, which he hasn’t done with any other girl he’s been linked to.

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Plus, they did snap a pic together along with Rita Ora at the 2017 EMAs when these dating rumors were really starting to buzz.

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Shawn, though, went ahead and confirmed they weren’t ever actually an official couple, but they did have a bit of a thing going on.

“I don’t even wanna put a title on it. I think it was more of a zone of limbo,” Shawn said to Rolling Stone about his relationship with Hailey. And while it wasn’t long after this Met Gala hangout that Hailey got back with her former bae Justin Bieberquickly got engaged and now, you know, they’re married — Shawn admits he’s nothing but happy for her.

“I texted Hailey, ‘Congratulations,’ and I really am happy for them. She’s still one of the f–king coolest people ever — she’s not just a beautiful person visually, but she’s one of the most beautiful hearts I’ve ever met. I think I’m an idiot to not, you know …. But you can’t control your heart.”

So yes, he for sure had feelings for her! But previously, Shawn was quick to shut down any speculation that the pair was more than friends, perhaps because the 22-year-old model found her way back to Justin and Shawn was being respectful of her relationship status. And when the Biebs first proposed to Hailey and Shawn was asked about it all, the singer had nothing but kind words to say.

“I texted Hailey the day of and said ‘congrats.’ I think everybody wants there to be more, [but] there’s not,” he said while appearing on The Project during a stop in Australia. And as he told The Times UK, he thinks the Biebs and Hailey are v cute together.

“I’m so happy for them. Hailey and I are great friends. I’m also friends with Bieber. I think they’re both actually very good for each other. It’s crazy, though, it’s a big thing,” he said. And as for what that Met Gala red carpet situation was all about? Shawn said it was all just about friendship.

“No, we were not making our big debut [at the Met Gala]. We were both asked to walk by Tommy Hilfiger,” the singer said to People magazine. “Obviously Hailey and I are friends, and it was just really cool for me to be able to walk with her because she’s a vet and it was my first year, so it kind of took the pressure off a little bit. I was thrilled to be able to go with her.” And he confirmed this sentiment when he spoke to Vulture too about how the Met Gala night was “the most overwhelmed” he had felt and walking the red carpet with his BFF Hailey really was helpful for him.

“We are just awesome friends. [Walking] with Hailey at the Met Gala’ was about having somebody there to calm the nerves. We were there for each other,” he said.

So there we have it, Shawn and Hailey are clearly so not a thing now, but once upon a time, there was a small spark.

Who is Shawn’s girlfriend?

Shawn hasn’t really had any public possible romances since he’s been in the spotlight, but that doesn’t mean he hasn’t had any flings along the way. He seems to have a thing for older girls, too! In a radio interview in New Zealand on The Edge, he admitted the oldest girl he’s hooked up is 25 years old when he was 19 years old. He did also mention in an interview with Billboard in 2016 he was seeing someone who was older at one time but when that fizzled out, he ended up writing the song “Patience” about it.

“[It] is about a girl older than me who I hooked up with, but the next day was so scared because of how young I was. I have a sore spot for older people who are weird around younger people,” Shawn said. Wonder who these girls are because we have all the questions about these romances! When speaking to Rolling Stone, he just so happened to have had a fun night hanging out with a Hungarian bartender after he performed at a festival that night. Fans noticed he followed her on Instagram, wondering if there was more to this relationship than just one night hanging out, but Shawn explained that he didn’t even follow her on the ‘Gram. She took his phone and followed herself from his account when he was in the bathroom!

“Gotta give her credit for that,” he said. So while he’s out living it up and having fun now, there was a time when Shawn was in a long-term relationship in the past though, which gave him some song inspiration along the way.

“I actually had a girlfriend for two years and so I wrote songs about her. But I write a lot of songs about love that I may not understand exactly but I do think I have a good almost understanding of it and I try my hardest and I find it extremely fun because I think love is the most powerful feeling a human can experience so I can write a million songs about it,” Shawn said during a fan Q & A.

Two years is a long time! Now, it’s unclear as to when exactly this love story went down for us to try and pinpoint who the lucky girl is. At only 20 years old, he hasn’t been in the public eye all the long, mostly just in the last few years, so he’s either really good at keeping things under the radar, or this girlfriend was from before he really became the superstar he is now. Although he has never publicly confirmed anything, most fans have speculated his former flame is Lauren Arendse who he went to prom with in 2015.


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The two were clearly an item in the early days of his career but since then, Shawn really hasn’t had much time for another full-blown relationship it seems.

Did Shawn date Camila Cabello?

Ever since Shawn and Camila gave the world their duet “I Know What You Did Last Summer” and plenty of adorable moments, everyone wants to know if there was anything more to their friendship. While they would look super cute together and already have so much love for one another, they’re simply friends.

“We’re just really close friends. She is one of those people who is just very easy to connect with and still, to this day, is one of my greatest friends. You find that instant connection with people, and she’s one of them. She’s a f—ing great writer. Even if we just wrote for other people, I would be happy to do that because she’s such a thrill to write with and work with,” Shawn said to People.


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And they’re literally always gushing over each other, it’s beyond precious. Like when Shawn took to Twitter to congratulate the songstress on her first solo album.


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And then she spilled all about their friendship while she was on The Zach Sang Show. Camila admitted that although the duo doesn’t get to spend a ton of time together, they’re do talk all the time.

“He’s so cute, I love him. It’s so crazy, we never hang out but we’re always texting and always on the phone. We’re never in the same place at the same time but we’re always texting about random stuff. We talk about Harry Potter; I love Shawn, he’s a real friend,” Camila said.

BFF goals right there. But no romantic love match here, just a beautiful friendship. And that’s all we need.

Did Shawn date Chloe Grace Moretz?

So this rumor came about when the singer and the actress exchanged some rather flirty messages with each other on Twitter. Shawn shared a v handsome pic of himself from a photo shoot on Twitter that happened to catch Chloe’s eye.

And Shawn noticed her GIF reply, which she coyly blamed on being jet lag.


Those are flirty tweets in our eyes but alas, nothing came from this interaction and Chloe has been on and off with Brooklyn Beckham for years anyway. So no, she didn’t date Shawn. Just admired a cute photo of him. Same, girl.

Has Shawn ever been in love?

While he has had tons of romantic relationships, he hasn’t quite had any terrible heartbreak so it appears he hasn’t met the love of his life quite yet.

“I have mildly [suffered for love], not as much as I make it sound like. I need to get my heart broken so I can write another album. I don’t think I’ve ever had my heart broken,” Shawn said to Fernanda Catania, better known for her YouTube channel Foquinha. “I’m lucky, but that means it has to happen. But that’s good, I can’t wait for it to happen because I’ll probably get some good songs out of it.”

What type of boyfriend is Shawn?

The “Treat You Better” singer already has a perfect date in mind, which he shared to Kiss 92.5.

“Honestly, keep it simple. Go to dinner,” Shawn said. “First, I’d probably ask like where you want to go. If I don’t get an answer, I don’t know. I’d probably just ask somebody I work with because they always know good places to eat.”

After you’re done enjoying a meal together, he obviously doesn’t want the night to end there and he’s all about that romantic stroll afterward.

“I’d probably just go for a walk somewhere. I would probably keep [the guitar playing] until later,” he added. OK, so not serenading on a first date, good to know. And would he be publicly flaunting his love to his millions of followers and fans? Well, all signs seem to point to yes, although he’s really about making sure he does whatever it is the leading lady in his life prefers.

“I think it’s all about, in that moment, how I feel. I just take life how it comes to me. If whoever I end up with doesn’t want to be in the eye, then they won’t be in the eye. But if they don’t care, then they will be. It’s all about who I’m with or exactly how our relationship is,” he continued to Kiss 92.5. “Truthfully, sometimes privacy is a serious thing — but less about me and just more about just my family and friends.”

He did tweet once in 2014 though that if he is ever in a relationship, he’s more than willing to share that with his fans.

So Shawn is really an open book and when he’s ready to talk about his girlfriend, we’ll all be here rooting for him. At least we always have the oh so romantic “There’s Nothing Holdin’ Me Back” music video to hold us over until we see more of him being actual boyfriend goals.

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Additional reporting by Emily Brozyna.

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