Spilling the TeaNessa Barrett Talks Jaden Hossler, Mental Health and Cooper Noriega: TikTok Star’s Biggest ‘Call Her Daddy’ Bombshells

Rising to Fame

When she started blowing up on TikTok, Nessa “hated” going to high school.

“Everyone thought it was so cool at first, but then, when it got to a certain degree … I was an outcast because of it,” she shared. “I would walk into class they would take pictures of me from Google and make them all the home screens on the computers and then, teachers would use my name and my salary as anecdotes for math problems.”

Her Relationship With Josh Richards

“I feel like, because of social media we developed a very serious relationship. It was too serious for how young we were,” she shared of their past romance. Josh and Nessa dated publicly throughout 2020.

“He was a part of Sway at the time, too. I mean, those boys, they were blowing up. That was their prime when we started dating,” Nessa recalled. “Them being like 17, 18 blowing up living in an L.A. house of their own was a frat house of social media. It’s hard to resist some things, and I wouldn’t say that this is the truth but how I felt at the time was that a lot of the good parts of our relationship were simply for views and content. … It got really hard for me to process because I fall for people heavy, and I get very attached. So, seeing things a certain way … I couldn’t understand.”

The Relationship Drama

In March 2021, Nessa made headlines following her split from Josh when she started dating his former best friend, Jaden. According to the “Die First” songstress, it’s a “very sticky situation to talk about.” At the time, fans speculated that Nessa and Jaden got together romantically following the release of their “La Di Die” song collaboration. However, that wasn’t the case.

“There are multiple sides to every story, and it was just, we were all living in a house together. I felt like, separately, we each were going through problems in our relationship,” Nessa shared. “We were struggling within our relationships separately and there was a lot of tension in the house too because certain people didn’t really get along. Josh, at the time, before we broke up, he was just so busy with work, and I was heavily starting my music career. So, at some point, we decided to break up, too, because I was struggling a lot mentally. I’ve just realized that we started dating when we were really young. We were both just not the same people as when we started and I just felt like we had a lot of different interests and it got to a point where, sometimes, you just realize that you’re more comfortable than in love at the moment.”

Following her and Josh’s split, “stuff started happening” between herself and Jaden. But Nessa made it clear that there was nothing “sneaky,” she just “let my heart take control.”

Overall, Nessa referred to the drama as “really hard.” She added, “I just didn’t want to really talk about the situation because I was, kind of, embarrassed, but also very angry at the way everything played out, It was just something that made me really upset because at the time, I just thought that I was doing something that would make me happy, but then I had the whole world calling me a slut and telling me that I’m a backstabbing bitch and all this stuff.”

She concluded, “I feel bad more than anything.”

Starting Her Relationship With Jaden

“I knew that it was really bad timing and not the best situation. I just know how it looked, and it should look that way because I did make a poor decision, but I don’t regret anything,” she explained. “I don’t want to sound like I’m making up excuses for myself, but with my mental health stuff and with [Borderline Personality Disorder] there’s a thing called ‘favorite person’ … but your brain basically, unwillingly attaches itself to someone. When that happens, that’s all you can think about and will do anything to make that person happy. They become your life and identity at that point, and it turns romantic because it’s so hard to identify the difference between that. When you’re so in love with someone, they become your favorite person, but with BPD it’s different.”

While Jaden and Nessa didn’t start dating when the internet thought they were, the pair felt like they “had to” start a relationship. “I’m not gonna lie,” she added. “I was being like very selfish and I, obviously, felt certain way.”

She and Jaden dated for a year from April 2021 to April 2022. Throughout their time together, the former flames “honestly, got to experience such amazing things,” from music and tour. “I wouldn’t regret it, and we’ve had a lot of great moments that I would cherish forever,” Nessa said.

Did Jaden Cheat?

“OK, not physically, I don’t think,” she admitted. “I don’t blame him for anything because, at the time, when things started happening, I wasn’t the best person in a relationship because I was struggling so much. I know how it feels to want attention from other people when you’re not getting it from the person that you’re with. There are just a few things that I wasn’t too happy about, and that made me very insecure.”

Her Mental Health Struggles

Nessa shared that she started therapy at 6 years old and was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder at 18. The singer detailed her suicide attempt at 14, and the “traumatizing” experience of being in a mental institution as a teen.

“As soon as I got comfortable in there and started making friends, it was fun. You start feeling like … I felt like I belonged for the first time,” Nessa recalled, giving her 14-year-old self a message. “Thank God she was in there because I wouldn’t be where l am now. I just I just felt so like hopeless at that point because I couldn’t really see like a future after getting out of there.”

Cooper Noriega’s Death

On June 9, Nessa’s best friend died, which she said was something that she “couldn’t really ever comprehend.” She added, “I believe you have multiple soulmates in your life, and I feel like he was my platonic soulmate. … I’ve never had anyone understand me the way that he did.”

After he passed, Nessa said she “lost” herself. She explained, “I was destroyed because there was never a thought in my brain that I would ever have to live a single day without him.”

Seeking Treatment

Following Cooper’s death, Nessa sought help following a second suicide attempt.

“I was excited that I got a second chance and I just convinced myself and, especially after Cooper, I’ve gotten developed so much faith and I become religious out of nowhere,” she said. “God must want me here for a reason, you know. … I want to live for Cooper, and I just see life so differently now and I feel like now, and the first time in forever, l’ve been open to getting help seriously.”