In the nearly 20-minute-long vid, the 20-year-old got super vulnerable with fans, explaining that things went downhill between the pair at Coachella 2019, when she first found out he was being unfaithful in what was supposed to be a monogamous relationship.
“A lot of crazy s–t happened at Coachella, and during it all I wound up finding out a lot of really f–ked up stuff,” Tana revealed. “I woke up the next day expecting to have, like, a private breakup, and I get online to a bunch of screenshots of girls saying and showing a lot of stuff — some of it fake, some of it not — going really viral about Brad.”
Interestingly enough, the internet personality wasn’t even the one who wanted a monogamous relationship in the first place. According to Tana, Brad was the one who wanted to be monogamous, which is why it was even more shocking to find out he cheated.
“What angers me the most is that I really wanted an open relationship,” she said. “I was in the process of things with Bella [Thorne] being different and us kind of taking a little break when I started to get really close with Brad, and I wasn’t ready to be in a fully monogamous relationship. He really, really wanted that, and I feel like at the time I knew that he probably wouldn’t have dated me otherwise.”
Needless to say, she obliged and the two were exclusive, but ultimately, he broke her heart. Through tears, the YouTube star revealed that this is nothing new either. Typically, she feels like she bends over backwards for people in her life, and those same people often wind up taking advantage.
“My whole life is doing a lot of s–t for a lot of people, and a lot of people walking all over me,” she said. “I really didn’t think he would be one of them.”
Despite how heartbroken she is, she wants her fans to know that she didn’t make the video to bash Brad in any way. She understands that people make mistakes, and she’s no exception.
“This video is not at all made to crucify Brad,” she admitted. “He is a person who has made some mistakes, and I have made so many mistakes in my life, and I’m sure majority of you know that I don’t believe in canceled culture and ‘they’re over,’ and whatever. People make really bad mistakes. And I’ve made a lot of them in relationships, and in life and whatever, and I think when people come on and they paint their ex as this terrible person, that’s like really wrong and it’s not what I’m trying to do today. And I don’t want anyone to go send him hate or anything because I still love him.”
Overall, though, she wants to send her young and impressionable fans a message that you should never run back to someone who’s disrespected you.
“I just wanted it to work,” she said through tears. “I still want it to work. I miss him a lot. And I look really stupid online and that’s why I want to make this video because I’m not a role model, and I don’t want to ever be put in the position where I’m a role model, but as much as I hate to admit it, no matter what I do, millions of young girls and guys follow me. … If they see their favorite YouTuber get cheated on and go back to the person right away and just go right back and not stand up for themselves and not get treated the way they deserve, they might be a lot more inclined to do the same thing and I don’t want that.”
So how did this whole cheating scandal first break online? Well, it all started when Tana tweeted out a single broken heart emoji on April 21. Seems pretty normal for a 20-year-old, if you ask us! But when fans questioned why she was heartbroken, the YouTuber tweeted again — this time revealing a possible major hint that Brad had cheated.
“how could you break the heart of someone you love for moments with someone else,” she wrote.
how could you break the heart of someone you love for moments with someone else
— Tana Mongeau (@tanamongeau) April 21, 2019
Immediately, replies from fans started rolling in, and several of them automatically assumed she was referring to Brad and that the two had split.
“Sorry to hear that Tana. People are heartless nowadays and would literally give away a good relationship for 5 minutes of fun,” one fan tweeted.
“Sis if you’re talking about Brad, we will attack,” another fan wrote.
Although the 20-year-old didn’t address the rumors directly, she did drop some other hints that things had gone south between her and her BF. For starters, she liked several tweets about his cheating ways, seemingly acknowledging his infidelity. Plus, she tweeted about needing to be alone, which is completely understandable when you’re going through a breakup.
“solitude & independence r the f–king move rn,” she tweeted.
The good news is, Tana seems to be dealing with this breakup in the best way she possibly can, and she’s looking so forward to getting back to her old self again. The truth is, heartbreak can be really difficult — especially if you’re caught off guard and betrayed by someone you love. Now that she’s had several days to cope, it seems like she’s doing better, and we so love that she pushed herself to show her subscribers that heartbreak happens to everyone — even internet celebs. Sending you love, Tana!
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